Dating and relationship hooks: 31 real examples
Most people have a dating story they'd rather not tell. These 31 hooks are about dating, situationships, red flags and relationships. 16 come from Instagram and 15 from TikTok. Most are Chaotic or Hot Take hooks, so expect messy confessions and opinions people will argue with.
Hooks by style
Hooks are grouped by style. All 31 come from Captain Hook's library of 761 classified real hooks. The library has no view counts, so treat every hook as a draft to adapt. None comes with a guarantee. Each card shows the platform and whether the creator said it out loud or put it on screen as text.
Expert hooks (1)
Positions you as the authority. More Expert hooks
how to dress for the female gaze
Expert · Instagram Reels · on-screen text
Personal hooks (6)
Builds connection, feels real. More Personal hooks
I'm single, and I think I'm the problem
Personal · Instagram Reels · spoken
Tell me you are dating a danish boy... without telling me that you are dating a danish boy
Personal · Instagram Reels · on-screen text
Things guys need to do before having a girl over
Personal · Instagram Reels · on-screen text
My biggest red flag is feeling like I can't date anyone until I become the woman of my dreams and have everything figured out
Personal · TikTok · on-screen text
I got engaged at 20, and got married at 21. If you're scared of marriage, this is for you
Personal · TikTok · spoken
Story time on the month long relationship I had with a billionaire, part 1
Personal · TikTok · spoken
Suspense hooks (2)
Makes them watch til the end. More Suspense hooks
How to lose a guy in 10 days
Suspense · Instagram Reels · spoken + on-screen text
Things men don't want you to know (part 11)
Suspense · TikTok · on-screen text
Hot Take hooks (7)
Sparks comments and debate. More Hot Take hooks
Females will look at you like this and expect you to know they like you
Hot Take · Instagram Reels · on-screen text
One of my hottest takes is that "true love" and "soulmates" and "the one" is all sexist propaganda
Hot Take · Instagram Reels · spoken
I do not know who's supposed to hear this today, but you're not supposed to love me in your love language. You're supposed to love me in mine, and I'm supposed to love you in your love language.
Hot Take · TikTok · spoken
The new instagram update is going to ruin relationships, because instagram is coming for you. They're coming for you and your relationships a 100%
Hot Take · TikTok · spoken
a convo yall not ready to have is that the p word is cheating
Hot Take · TikTok · spoken
I speak on behalf of men when I say this... if we like another girl's post, it's not cause our thumbs slipped. It's cause we like what we saw.
Hot Take · TikTok · spoken
Two reasons why blended families don't work.
Hot Take · TikTok · on-screen text
Chaotic hooks (9)
Relatable messy energy. More Chaotic hooks
How I cook on Hinge. Part 40 😈
Chaotic · Instagram Reels · on-screen text
pregaming the date so he's the only awkward one there
Chaotic · Instagram Reels · on-screen text
Is this the reality of dating because... WTF
Chaotic · Instagram Reels · on-screen text
lowkey shouldn't be in a relationship bc how do i explain to them sometimes i just don't wanna talk for 2 days
Chaotic · Instagram Reels · on-screen text
I'm not dating nobody coparenting a pet with their ex. Done lost your damn mind
Chaotic · Instagram Reels · on-screen text
Shoutout to the man that helped me decenter men at 22 instead of at 40 with kids
Chaotic · TikTok · on-screen text
Literally nothing is more humbling than having the realization I have probably thought about a man more times than he has ever thought.
Chaotic · TikTok · spoken
rather be stressed from pursuing our dreams than some guy's underdeveloped frontal lobe
Chaotic · TikTok · on-screen text
me in a relationship ignores red flags and forgives the unforgivable me single: I don't like how he says yogurt
Chaotic · TikTok · on-screen text
Call Out hooks (3)
Hits a nerve. More Call Out hooks
I dont care how happy you are in your relationship you always gotta be one step ahead of these men, b*tch, because they cannot be trusted
Call Out · Instagram Reels · spoken
No. casual hookups do not affect men and women in the exact same way, psychologically or emotionally. Let me explain
Call Out · TikTok · spoken
I hope that this is the very last time that I'm inspired to speak on this subject matter, but if you're a woman and you're currently on dating apps, such as Hinge, Bumble - get out of this video right now, and go delete them.
Call Out · TikTok · spoken
Humble Brag hooks (1)
Shows wins without being obnoxious. More Humble Brag hooks
This might be the most manipulative and awful thing you can do to get a woman, but I promise you it works like a charm. Here's what you do:
Humble Brag · Instagram Reels · spoken
POV hooks (2)
Pulls viewers into the scene. More POV hooks
POV: Your wife can see everything even when she's not in the same room
POV · Instagram Reels · on-screen text
POV: the girls need to interview the latest candidate because you've had some shockers in the past
POV · Instagram Reels · on-screen text
What these 31 hooks have in common
- Chaotic is the biggest style (9), then Hot Take (7).
- None of the 31 is a question: each one states an opinion or sets a scene. A statement gives viewers something to agree or argue with in the comments.
- 17 were on-screen text: a one-line caption over a clip of you reacting, getting ready or walking.
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